Congratulations on your engagement! Our churches can offer you a beautiful setting for your wedding and if you're thinking of getting married in one of our churches then we would love to hear from you. We can help you plan the occasion and can offer you marriage preparation and support in the lead-up to your wedding.
A church is so much more than simply a venue for your wedding.
A church wedding enables you to celebrate this important occasion in the presence of God and to begin your married life with God’s blessing. All are welcome to a Church of England wedding regardless of your beliefs, whether you are christened or whether you go to church or not.
Unlike many wedding venues, the church is interested in much more than just your wedding day and really cares about the rest of your married life together. As a church, after your wedding day, we will be here for you whenever you need us. You might like to bring back a child for a christening or you might like to visit us again at Christmas or Easter. We will be here for you whenever you need us, and you will always receive a warm welcome when you come back. As well as playing a special role in your wedding day, the church would love to become a part of your future story too.
We'd love to answer questions and talk to you about your potential church wedding. Please telephone 01733 205 337, text/WhatsApp 07464 292353 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to have a conversation or to book an informal meeting with a minister.
Frequently asked questions
Can I have a church wedding?
There are a few misconceptions about whether couples can have a church wedding or not. You don't need to go to church to have a church wedding and you don't need to be baptized (christened) to have a church wedding. We really aren't worried if you already have any children - we would just love to see them on the day playing a special role in your ceremony. The chances are that if you would like a church wedding then you can have one - so if this is the case, please just ask!
What if I'm Divorced?
If one or both of you have been divorced, you may still be able to be married in a Church. If you would like to get married in one of our churches and this applies to you, please contact us and we can explore this with you.
Can I get married in your church?
If you live within any of the parishes of Whittlesey (Saint Andrew of Saint Mary), Pondersbridge (Saint Thomas) and Coates (Holy Tinity) then you can marry within any of our four churches. You can also marry in our churches if you have what we call a 'qualifying connection' to one of the churches.
To check what parish you live in, please enter your postcode through the tool on the A Church Near You website: www.achurchnearyou.com
If you don't live within our parishes, then you can still get married in one of our churches if you have what we call a qualifying (or associational) connection.
his is the case if you can show that one of you:
• has at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months, or
• was baptized (christened) in the parish, or
• was prepared for confirmation in the parish, or
• has at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months.
or that one of your parents, at any time after you were born:
• has lived in the parish for a period of 6 months, or
• has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish for a period of at
least 6 months, or
• that one of your parents or grandparents was married in the parish
If you're unsure whether any of the above apply to you but you would really like to get married in our church, then please get in touch with us and we can explore the possibility with you.
How much does a church marriage service cost?
The cost of a standard wedding in 2024 is £624. There are additional charges for things like the Organ, Choir, Bells, Flowers which you might feel would make your wedding ceremony extra special. Please contact us to confirm the full cost of a wedding if you would like some of these additional items.
How do I book my wedding?
If you’d like to get married in one of our churches, then we would love to hear from you! Simply contact us using the details above and you will be invited to meet with someone from the church to book your wedding.
What about marriage preparation?
Unlike a lot of wedding venues, we are not just interested in your wedding day. We really care about what comes afterwards and how we might help you to prepare for and make the most of your married life together – as well as the day on which it all begins. Christian marriage isn't just about going to church and saying the right words. It’s a lifelong commitment and needs to be taken very seriously, which is why a lot of prayer and thought will go into making sure you’re prepared for it.
To help you prepare we will be inviting you to attend a Marriage Preparation day, usually held in the beginning of the year. We'll give you some more information on this when you book your wedding. Marriage Preparation is completely optional, but we really encourage you to invest some time and thought into preparing for your marriage as much as you might spend time preparing for your wedding day.
I've booked my Wedding - what else do I need to plan and prepare?
Planning a wedding is a very exciting time but we also know it can be quite a daunting experience. There is plenty of opportunity to personalise the wedding service to suit you and your future spouse; there will be readings and hymns or other music to choose, as well as optional extras such as bells and flowers to consider. When you book your Wedding, we will give you a Booklet which will help to guide you through some of these decisions. You might also like to have a look at the Church of England Weddings website here.
Are there Toilets in the Church?
Unfortunately, St Mary’s, St Andrew’s and St Thomas’ Churches do not have a toilet in their buildings. Holy Trinity Church does have a toilet which visitors to the church are welcome to use.